The Big Ask

“I’d rather be lost, stuck or miserable than ask for assistance.” Whenever I unveil that phrase on my flip chart in a training, there is a smattering of chuckles from the participants, usually one gender in particular. At first blush the phrase can elicit a little humor, for who doesn’t know someone (usually one gender […]

Can I Count On You

Can I count on you?  To me, it’s one of the most important, defining, revealing questions in the human condition.  In simple terms, what I really want to know about you, maybe more than just about anything is, can I count on you to do you do what you say you’re going to do, when […]

It’s About Time

“Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.” William Penn When I work with management teams I often start off the session with two simple questions.  What’s one thing you want in your life that you don’t currently have?  What’s the fear that’s in the way of getting it? I would say […]

One Giant Invention

Webster defines the word invent as follows: to produce (as something useful) for the first time through the use of the imagination or of ingenious thinking and experimentation. Wow, what a fantastic word, the definition of which in my opinion outlines a clear path to fulfillment and happiness within the human condition.  If you were […]

I’m No Lindsey Vonn

I’m No Lindsey Vonn “Hi Mr. Musselman, I’m on the selection committee for our graduation ceremony and we wanted to see if you’d be interested in being the commencement speaker this year?”  The question caught me off guard for sure but my answer was almost instantaneous, “I’d love to speak at your graduation, but I’ll […]

The Subtle Trap of Expectations

A lot of the work I do with individuals, couples, teams and organizations revolves around the vast difference between having an expectation of someone versus having an agreement with them.  In my experience, a large amount of dysfunction within marriages, friendships, families, teams and organizations is caused by this very thing.  If you did an […]

Stop Shoulding On Me

I have a confession to make that I’m not very proud of, I was a “serial shoulder.” That’s right, for most of my life I consistently, annoyingly, destructively “should on” people, lot’s of people – my wife, kids, friends, family – people I care for and love very much. And every time I “should on” […]

Where Are You Stopping?

  In April 2007, my brother Mark (CEO), accompanied by my dad (Founder) filed bankruptcy papers for our family business of 42 years Ouray Sportswear. It was the culmination to a long and very difficult journey that started in August of 2006 and lasted about 9 months from start to finish. There are few things more humbling in the […]