The Subtle Trap of Expectations

A lot of the work I do with individuals, couples, teams and organizations revolves around the vast difference between having an expectation of someone versus having an agreement with them.  In my experience, a large amount of dysfunction within marriages, friendships,...

Stop Shoulding On Me

I have a confession to make that I’m not very proud of, I was a “serial shoulder.” That’s right, for most of my life I consistently, annoyingly, destructively “should on” people, lot’s of people – my wife, kids, friends, family – people I care for and love very much....