Blog

A lot of the work I do with individuals, couples, teams and organizations revolves around the vast difference between having an expectation of someone versus having an agreement with them.  In my experience, a large amount of dysfunction within marriages, friendships,...

I have a confession to make that I’m not very proud of, I was a “serial shoulder.” That’s right, for most of my life I consistently, annoyingly, destructively “should on” people, lot’s of people – my wife, kids, friends, family – people I care for and love very much....

In April 2007, my brother Mark (CEO), accompanied by my dad (Founder) filed bankruptcy papers for our family business of 42 years Ouray Sportswear. It was the culmination to a long and very difficult journey that started in August of 2006 and lasted about 9 months...

About 10 years ago I read a book, Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott, that fundamentally changed a lot of things in my life my marriage, my friendships, my career but mostly it changed who and how I was being in the world. Actually, it was really just one awareness I...

“The Gap” as I define it is the difference between what you say you want in your life versus the results you’re actually producing. For instance, let’s say you want to make $90,000 per year, but you’re actually making $65,000. That’s a gap and a pretty big one at...

Twenty feet, it’s a pretty short distance really, but to me it’s one of the more interesting distances in the human condition. The twenty feet I’m talking about is the approximate distance between your back door and your car door.20 feet In my experience, a lot of...